Thursday, January 27, 2011

The soap opera continues

My mother left a handwritten will. It was pretty good, according to my lawyer. It also declared me as sole heir. My mom said that she did this because my brother is not to be trusted with money. I've first hand experience of this.

Anyway, a will three months older than the handwritten one (but done by a lawyer) surfaces, and my brother sends me a letter alleging that I wrote the handwritten one myself. This is the same guy that walked into her house while she was in intensive care and pointed out which antiques he wanted straight after saying 'Hello'.

I let him have the household contents - all of it. I let him make off with the ten thousand the family gave him towards the funeral I paid for. I helped him to get the fifty thousand life insurance money. He's obviously spent it all now.

I got the dogs and cats and the liabilities involving her house. Later, I'm told, when her will comes through, I might be rich woman. I can't imagine that. I've always been on the scruffy side of middle class. I've no wish to be her sole heir, but it was her wish.

Unfortunately, allegations of fraud mean that I will fight this to the end. If one thing is worthwhile to me - worth more than money - it's my good name.

I no longer have a brother.

I'm hurting. It would be so nice if life would become boring - instead the soap operas have nothing on it. Mom dies, I've the pets to settle, I find that I'm ill too, I get my date for surgery, my brother accuses me of fraud. What next?

Please let it end.


  1. I am really sorry to hear all this. But never mind, just think deeply a solution is bound to come. But let the hurt and the anger first settle down and after that has happened you will be in a better frame of mind to think of way out of this mess. I am sure you are smart enough to find a solution. God is always guiding you.

  2. Wow, Andrea, I am so sorry! I went through much the same thing with my brother. When my mother died I didn't even tell him for six months! He didn't know, he never called her!
    When he found out his first question was there any money? Send me half of it!!! I did, about $27 dollars. It is pretty amazing how money tears families apart.

  3. At least you were smart enough not to announce that it could not get worse. You would have caught fire the instant you hit the submit button.

  4. Oh Andrea... my friend... I am beyond sorry. I am so sorry. Geez girl, this is really crappy! Look, I may live thousands upon thousands upon thousands of miles away, but I am here whenever you need it! And I mean that!


  5. I am sorry about this. I have a feeling something similar will happen with my asshole brother when my parents die.
    It's OK to have the fight also be about the money. Because one thing about people who are needy--whether it's over money or affection--they can never be filled up. So fight it with a good attorney.

  6. Be strong. We're all thinking of you x

  7. That prick! Fight, fight, fight. Sue him for what was rightfully yours in the first place. Bastard.

  8. MM I am sure justice will prevail. Important to remember your own health so stay as strong as you are able. He is what you have always known him to be [not able to use enough descriptive words here.]
    The lesson for us all is to ensure we have a legally binding will in the hope our wishes will be carried out.

  9. I'm sorry to hear that, it must be so hard for you. Stay strong.

  10. Sad to say, he'll never stop taking until you put a halt to it all. I care about you and am so sorry about everything that is happening to you. Stay strong and don't give up. I know it's so easy for me to say, but you're a tough little cookie and a survivor when you put your mind to it.

  11. I am so sorry you have to deal with that crap on top of your sugery and being sick. It sometimes seems when life is going crappy more crap is added on top. I hope your name is cleared and sooner rather than later.

  12. Holy Hell.
    Your tale rings so close to home it hurts. I was accused of ripping up my mother's will. (Last thing on a daughter's mind, as you know!)
    My thoughts are with you as you struggle with this. Hugs.

  13. Hey everyone. Thanks. I probably shouldn't have posted this. Distraught and needed to vent. Thanks for putting up with me, and thanks for sharing your thoughts.